If you had no psychological trauma, which is chronic latent inflammation, you would feel nothing when you turn your attention to the codependent or regression types. Because they are not stress stimulators.
It is the same with hay fever. People who do not have hay fever do not have any reaction when they inhale pollen. But for those who have hay fever, when pollen comes in through the nose or eyes, the body’s immune system considers it an enemy and attacks it.
In interpersonal relationships, reactions such as “nervousness”, “irritation”, or “disrespect” at the sight of others are the movement of the immune system against psychological trauma, which is a chronic latent inflammation. When you see a normal person, the immune system does not see them as an enemy, so you do not feel anything (in cases of severe allergic symptoms due to severe inflammation, the immune system may react to normal people as well). Normal people are treated like scenery and go through the motions.
For codependent and regression types, who have characteristic stress hormone movements due to psychological trauma, the immune system becomes active and causes reactions such as “nervous” or “irritable” or “scared” (all written in the narrative).
When attention is turned to the regression type, one feels “they have something better than me” such as being nervous, scared, anxious about not being taken advantage of (abandonment anxiety), etc. That is because of the high resting tension of the regression type.
When we feel such tension, fear, or anxiety, no one thinks that the reaction is an allergy and immune activation by the other person. We interpret the symptoms we are experiencing as “I’m nervous because the other person is attractive,” or “I’m nervous because they are violently superior to me,” or “I’m nervous because they are humanly rich, and I’m nervous about what if they don’t accept me.”
And if you come in contact with the regression type, their stress hormones go down and they turn into a child. If you talk to someone you thought was attractive, they will turn into a expressionless face and ignore you because their stress hormones have dropped and they are unable to respond in an adult manner. When you are nervous because you think the person is violent, the person suddenly does something unreasonable or picks a fight with you because the stress hormones drop and his mental state becomes that of a child due to the stress stimulus.
Someone I thought was humanly rich suddenly reacts with the unreasonable attitude, and I am taken aback thinking, “Why do you treat me so inconsiderately and only to me?” This is because the stress hormone of the other person is lowered by the stress stimulus of me, and the mental state of the person becomes that of a child.
Then I consider the other person as an enemy and my autoimmunity goes out of control, so I fight the person in my head. It is interesting to think of it as the same condition as when the immune system considers pollen as an enemy and attacks it. In other words, I get hurt because “someone who I think is better than me did something unreasonable to me,” and I feel frustrated and keep fighting in my head because I am weaker than that person.
But in reality, the person I thought was “better than me” had their stress hormones down and turned into a child, and the person responded in a childish way. At that point, I am made to be the codependent type, where maternal behavior kicks in, “I have to correct my child partner. So, fighting the other person in my head means that I am fighting with the purpose of “I have to correct the wrong person.”
This is the second way to identify the regression type.
If you are fighting hard to correct the wrong person in your head, the other person is a regression type.
When the person you thought was better than you responds in a childish way, your psychological trauma, chronic latent inflammation, activates your immune system and you attack your enemy. If you realize that the reason for attacking is to correct the other person, you will realize that the other person is a regression type, and the outburst of autoimmunity will be cured.
The reason why the runaway autoimmunity is cured when you realize that the other person is a regression type is that the other person is just suffering from the same psychological trauma as you, chronic latent inflammation, and the autoimmunity is out of control. So because you can realize that they are just like you and not the enemy. You don’t have to consciously think that the other person is not your enemy.
Because if you think, “Pollen is not the enemy,” and your hay fever is cured, you won’t need medication.
If you are fighting in your head to correct the other person, you just realize that “the person is a regression type” and the autoimmune outburst will subside.
It’s interesting how this works (all written in narrative).