The chronic latent inflammation creates antibodies, and the immune system attacks normal cells with stress stimuli. You can’t stop blaming yourself because your immune system considers the psychological trauma, chronic latent inflammation, as an enemy and attacks it.
And although you are not aware of their psychological trauma, you will not stop attacking others who have the same chronic latent inflammation as you. Both codependent and regression types are created by psychological trauma.
The reason why various symptoms occur after coming in contact with the codependent or regression type is because the autoimmunity goes out of control and inflammation occurs. Inflammation creates a variety of physical symptoms. Stomach pain, abdominal pain, headache, joint pain, stiff shoulders, insomnia, fatigue, lethargy with no strength in the extremities, dizziness, nausea, difficulty breathing, etc.
The symptoms range from unexplained by hospital tests to diagnoses of disease, but, we believe, are all created by inflammation (all written in narrative).
No way, no one imagines that you have an allergic reaction to a familiar codependent or regression type and that your symptoms are occurring because your immune system is attacking chronic latent inflammation. If your partner is a codependent type, from the outside looking in, people will think of your husband as a nice person who is thinking of you. And you would think that your partner is acting out of consideration for you, and that it is wrong of you to get frustrated with such a partner.
It’s like an allergy, so when your partner thinks about your feelings during stress, your stress hormones go down, so you can’t respond appropriately to the stress stimulus. And because the stress hormones come back up later, the stress stimulus to which you could not respond becomes a state of psychological trauma, and you are reminded of it over and over again, and each time you get angry or blame yourself, which causes inflammation in your body.
Stress stimuli that have entered a state of psychological trauma do not go away forever and cause inflammation, which produces physical symptoms and even psychological symptoms such as depression. Inflammation also causes peripheral immune cells to become more active and cognitive functions to decline, resulting in a crippled state, and the stress further triggers inflammation, and so the cycle goes on.
So here is how to identify the codependent type and the regression type.
If you feel nervous or fearful of the other person, you can suspect them of a “regression type,” and if you fight to correct them in your head after contact with them, you can recognize that they are really a regression type after all.
If you feel that the other person is “lower than you” when you turn your attention to them, even if they are unpleasant, and then fight with them in your head to prove that you are better than them after you have contact with them, you can recognize that they are a codependent type.
Whether the other person is a regression type or a codependent type, when you recognize them, you will be able to automatically respond that they are a source of allergy and stress stimulus for you. Once you know it is the source of the allergy, you will not fight to overcome it.
If the “fight or flight” choice can be made automatically by the normal stress hormone response to stress stimuli of the codependent and regression types, the allergic reaction, autoimmune runaway, can be avoided.
Once the autoimmune system is no longer runaway by the allergic source, inflammation will heal and various physical and mental symptoms will calm down. And best of all, cognitive function will return to normal. You will be able to live freely and spontaneously with your original intelligence.
When you look back at the person’s words and actions after you realize that he or she is a codependent or regression type, you may think, “So that’s what it was all about!” and the feeling of blaming the other person disappears. This is because the stress hormones are working properly against the stress stimulus and the person can automatically choose to “fight or flee” without thinking about it.
Then the autoimmune outburst is cured, cognitive functions return to normal, and you begin to see the other person and yourself as life-size (all written in narrative).