When peripheral immune cells are active due to chronic latent inflammation, a psychological scar, they attack normal cells as enemies and cognitive function declines.
When cognitive function declines, agnosia causes the phenomenon of “feeling the other person’s feelings in your hand”.
If your partner is a little grumpy, you immediately assume that he or she is grumpy because you told him/her to clean up the room. And from there, you with psychological scars will think that your partner is saying, “Why don’t you stay home and clean up the mess? I’m working so hard outside the home to earn money,” blaming you, and you think that the partner’s feelings are palpable. Then you get angry, “My partner is assuming that I am useless and that I am not doing anything in the house, without even knowing how hard I am working.”
After such a heady exchange with your partner, you say, “Why don’t you do what I tell you to do properly? You think I’m stupid!” And the anger explodes. Your partner has had a shocking experience at work and is depressed and not motivated to do anything, and then you say something like that, so the sadness of not being understood turns into anger and you explode into a fight.
Then, what you were thinking in your head becomes reality, and you become convinced that you can understand people’s feelings as if you could feel them in their hands.
This agnosia that “people’s feelings are palpable” is a phenomenon caused by autoimmunity attacking the psychological scar, chronic latent inflammation.
If a child is born with high expectations, but the parents are shocked when their expectations are not met, this is transmitted to the child and the psychological scar of “disappointing child” is left as a chronic latent inflammation.
When stressed by a partner’s grumpy face, the immune system attacks the chronic latent inflammation of the “disappointing child”. When the immune system attacks the “disappointing child,” it translates into the partner thinks “you are disappointing me” and then the partner blames you for disappointing him or her, and so on.
Then, the thought of what your partner would think makes you angry, and anger causes inflammation, so more and more the immune system attacks the chronic latent inflammation, the “disappointing child,” so you are shocked and more and more angry, further agnosia that your partner thinks even worse things.
The inflammatory stimulus generated by shock and anger activates the autoimmune system, which further attacks the “disappointing child,” and then further agnosia that the partner is thinking terrible things, which is a disorientation that leads to a conversation with the partner in your head.
If you get a good night’s sleep and the inflammation has healed to some extent, you may wake up in the morning and feel remorse for the terrible things you said to your partner, because the inflammation has subsided and cognitive function has returned.
But if you don’t get proper sleep, the inflammation doesn’t heal and your autoimmunity remains active, you won’t be able to forgive your partner and the interaction with your partner will escalate further in your mind to the point where you can’t stop being angry.
A diagnosis of two weeks’ total recovery from a car accident bruise means that it takes two weeks for the inflammation to heal. In the same way, when you have a violent fight with your partner, the more intense it is, the longer it takes for the inflammation to heal. Although it takes time, however, the inflammation will inherently heal gradually. It heals and cognitive function returns to normal.
However, if the autoimmunity is active due to latent inflammation, which is a psychological wound, the inflammation will not go away for long and will constantly keep attacking the ‘disappointing child’, so the fight with the partner in the head will not subside. It escalates and escalates, the inflammation gets worse and worse, peripheral immune cells become more active and cognitive function is reduced, so disorientation occurs, and what you were anxious and afraid of is reflected in reality, and you get the feeling that you can feel your partner’s feelings in your hand (all written in narrative).
If you think you can feel the other person’s feelings in your hand, it is possible that you are attacking the psychological trauma through autoimmunity behind it.
When you can tell how the other person feels about you by the slightest movement of their eyes, their language, and their attitude, you just need to realise that you might be attacking your psychological wounds because your autoimmunity is activated by inflammation.
When you realise that your immune system is only attacking your psychological wounds if you can see how the other person feels, your autoimmunity, which was active due to inflammation, quiets down and stops attacking your psychological wounds because inflammation is no longer caused by anger, anxiety, etc.
As the activity of peripheral immune cells subsides, cognitive function returns to normal and a different world is seen. As cognitive function returns to normal, a kinder world opens up before your eyes.